When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really
listened to you?
If you're like most people, you don't listen as often or as well as
you'd like. There's no one better qualified than a talented journalist
to introduce you to the right mindset and skillset--and this book does
it with science and humor.
-Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Originals
and Give and Take
**Hand picked by Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Susan Cain, and
Daniel Pink for Next Big Ideas Club**
An essential book for our times.
-Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should
Talk to Someone
At work, we're taught to lead the conversation.
On social media, we shape our personal narratives.
At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians.
We're not listening.
And no one is listening to us.
Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital
communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really
listening or even knows how. And it's making us lonelier, more isolated,
and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York
Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here.
In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy
explains why we're not listening, what it's doing to us, and how we can
reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience,
and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best
listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator,
bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts
cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action
that's full of practical advice, You're Not Listening is to listening
what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It's time to stop talking
and start listening.
