You have probably heard of postnatal depression, but did you know that
most cases of postnatal depression actually began in pregnancy? And that
most people who have antenatal depression have had depression in the
past? And did you know that postnatal depression is not caused by
women's hormones gone awry; men are suffering postnatal and perinatal
depression in larger and larger numbers too? This is why "postnatal
depression" has now been renamed "perinatal depression"('peri' means
around, as in the word "perimeter").
Why is the seemingly joyful event of new parenthood causing so much
suffering? Depression seems to be related to the stresses that a modern
couple undertake when they have a baby. The lack of support, lack of
celebration, overload of expectations, overwhelming responsibility,
isolation, judgment, blaming by the media, tiredness, mixed messages,
confusion, high expectations and lack of tender loving care serve to
eventually break parents and their relationships. And when we break
parents, we break a baby. Babies are our future, and if we break a baby,
in the long run, we break society. Postnatal depression takes a high
toll on society. Dealing effectively with perinatal depression is about
valuing love, connection, calm and stillness, over and above
productivity, achievement and acquisition.