The White Fragility for transracial adoption--practical tools for
nurturing identity, unlearning white saviorism, and fixing the mistakes
you don't even know you're making.
If you're the white parent of a transracially or internationally adopted
child, you may have been told that if you try your best and work your
hardest, good intentions and a whole lot of love will be enough to give
your child the security, attachment, and nurturing family life they need
to thrive.
The only problem? It's not true. What White Parents Should Know About
Transracial Adoption breaks down the dynamics that frequently fly under
the radar of the whitewashed, happily-ever-after adoption stories we
hear so often.
Written by Melissa Guida-Richards--a transracial, transnational, and
late-discovery adoptee--this book unpacks the mistakes you don't even
know you're making and gives you the real-life tools to be the best
parent you can be, to the child you love more than anything.
From original research, personal stories, and interviews with parents
and adoptees, you'll learn:
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What parents wish they'd known before they adopted--and what kids wish
their adoptive parents had done differently
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What white privilege, white saviorism, and toxic positivity are...and
how they show up, even when you don't mean it
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How your child might feel and experience the world differently than
you
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All about microaggressions, labeling, and implicit bias
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How to help your child connect with their cultural heritage through
language, food, music, and clothing
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The 5 stages of grief for adoptive parents
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How to start tough conversations, work with defensiveness, and process
guilt
