Politeness, founded upon such a rule, becomes the expression, in
graceful manner, of social virtues. The spirit of politeness consists in
a certain attention to forms and ceremonies, which are meant both to
please others and ourselves, and to make others pleased with us; a still
clearer definition may be given by saying that politeness is goodness of
heart put into daily practice; there can be no true politeness without
kindness, purity, singleness of heart, and sensibility. Many believe
that politeness is but a mask worn in the world to conceal bad passions
and impulses, and to make a show of possessing virtues not really
existing in the heart; thus, that politeness is merely hypocrisy and
dissimulation. Do not believe this; be certain that those who profess
such a doctrine are practising themselves the deceit they condemn so
much. Such people scout politeness, because, to be truly a lady, one
must carry the principles into every circumstance of life, into the
family circle, the most intimate friendship, and never forget to extend
the gentle courtesies of life to every one.