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Learn how skillfully prizing kids (rather than mindlessly praising) can
be a game changer in your relationship as a parent, teacher, or helper.
Our culture is addicted to good job!--our all-purpose, feel-good,
non-specific, or high-bar-setting verbal praise--especially when we talk
to our kids. However, research shows that generic praise is insufficient
and sometimes even backfires in nudging them toward their potential or
helping kids navigate challenging moments. Praise can put too much
emphasis on controlling results, and kids can experience it as pressure
and learn to fear failing in adults' eyes.
By contrast, prizing is a game-changing mindset and set of specific
skills that can help kids convert moments of emotional pain or stuckness
into opportunities and possibilities for healthy change and growth.
Prizing brings kids and adults together into a shared space in the
present moment where conflict can dissolve, connection can thrive, and
needed changes arise.
In Prizeworthy, clinical psychologist Mitch Abblett introduces us to
the skills of prizing and shows us what it looks like and how to do it
in real-life situations. For example, techniques like SNAPPing Out of
Delusions of Outcome Control with Your Children or Light-Touch
Goal-Setting with Your Kids add an important layer of validation,
compassionate presence, and skillful action to your relationships.
Abblett also shares stories of how prizing has made a real difference in
the lives of young people, parents, and professionals. He offers a host
of scientifically-sound mindfulness and positive psychology-based
practices for cultivating prizing at home, and in educational and
therapeutic settings.
