In Loving What Is, bestselling author Byron Katie introduced thousands
of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through
questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love--Is That True? examines
a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others.
In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you
have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you
discover how to find genuine love and connection.
The usual advice offered in self-help books and reinforced by our
culture advocates a stressful, all-consuming quest for love and
approval. We are advised to learn self-marketing and manipulative
skills--how to attract, impress, seduce, and often pretend to be
something we aren't. This approach doesn't work. It leaves millions of
walking wounded--those who, having failed to find love or appreciation,
blame themselves and conclude that they are unworthy of love.
I Need Your Love--Is That True? helps you illuminate every area in
your life where you seem to lack what you long for most--the love of
your spouse, the respect of your child, a lover's tenderness, or the
esteem of your boss. Through its penetrating inquiry, you will quickly
discover the falseness of the accepted ways of seeking love and
approval, and also of the mythology that equates love with need. Using
the method in this book, you will inquire into painful beliefs that
you've based your whole life on--and be delighted to see them evaporate.
Katie shows you how unraveling the knots in the search for love,
approval, and appreciation brings real love and puts you in charge of
your own happiness.
"Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it's terrible.
People spend their whole lives tantalized by love--seeking it, trying to
hold on to it, or trying to get over it. Not far behind love, as major
preoccupations, come approval and appreciation. From childhood on, most
people spend much of their energy in a relentless pursuit of these
things, trying out different methods to be noticed, to please, to
impress, and to win other people's love, thinking that's just the way
life is. This effort can become so constant and unquestioned that we
barely notice it anymore.
This book takes a close look at what works and what doesn't in the quest
for love and approval. It will help you find a way to be happier in love
and more effective in all your relationships. What you learn here will
bring fulfillment to all kinds of relationships, including romantic
love, dating, marriage, work, and friendship." --Byron Katie
