Discover how attachment theory can help you better understand yourself
and your ex, improve your co-parenting skills, and raise happy,
emotionally secure kids!
If you're like most parents, you want--more than anything--for your
child to feel safe, loved, and confident that their needs will be met.
However, this can be difficult when you're sharing custody with an ex.
Instead of working together, you may feel at war with one another, and
in the end, nobody wins--especially your child. So, how can you ensure
that you and your ex are on the same page when it comes to co-parenting?
With this unique and highly practical guide, you'll learn the science of
attachment theory, and how to apply it to your co-parenting
relationship. Secure attachment refers to the bond between a parent
and young child, which gives that child a stable and secure basis from
which to negotiate life going forward. A child with a secure base can
weather the storms of trauma and life changes --such as those caused by
divorce--much more easily than a child who doesn't. Co-parents who
understand this principle have a significant advantage, because they can
learn how to provide secure attachment for their child, even while no
longer living under the same roof.
You'll learn the "principles of engagement" for successful co-parenting:
- Commitment: Create certainty in the midst of change by committing
to show up and be present for your child, thereby creating trust and
reducing anxiety.
- Collaboration: Work together, with a shared vision for
co-parenting, to create win-win-wins for all.
- Clarity: Maintain clear, concise, calm, and timely communications,
thereby minimizing misunderstandings and providing accountability.
- Consistency: Build consistent structures in both homes to create
reliable and predictable environments.
- Community: Cultivate community and external support systems,
thereby expanding the circle of love.
Co-parenting is often difficult, and sometimes it can feel like a
battle. But it doesn't have to be this way. Using the insight and wisdom
in this guide, you'll learn how to build a solid and supportive
co-parenting team. And the real winner will be your kid!
