For years, people have asked Gail Song Bantum and Brian Bantum to reveal
the secret to their marriage as a multiracial Christian couple, each
with a high-profile ministry calling. This book reveals the lessons,
mistakes, and principles that have helped the Bantums navigate race,
family history, and gender dynamics in their twenty-plus years of
marriage, while inspiring readers to pursue mutual flourishing in their
marriages and relationships.
Marriage is about more than constant bliss or unending sacrifice, say
the Bantums. It's about exploring your own story, seeing the other for
who they are (even as they change), and being flexible in discovering
how those differences and stories come alive in new ways when joined
together. It's the discovery of life in the gaps and the mysteries that
emerge when we live in mutuality, believing that fullness is possible
for each.
Choosing Us reflects the realities and demands of modern marriage and
respects the callings and ambitions of both partners. It shows that
marriage is about choosing the other's flourishing on a daily basis,
amid differences and even systemic obstacles, to build a relationship
that thrives and reflects the kingdom of God.