Being with Others: Curses, Spells and ScintillationsPaperback, 1 June 2021

How the hidden drives and motivations of the Trimotive Brain keep us 'in threat, ' cast a spell on our lives, and shape the patterns of our relationships--and 4 Perception Practices we can use to change those patterns. Many of our significant relationships are based not on trust and respect but on an unconscious compulsion to deny our problems, flaws, and fears. We see the consequences at home and at work, where we repeat the same mistakes and act out familiar patterns of behaviour with our partners, friends, and colleagues in ways that leave us stressed and unhappy. In Being with Others, psychotherapist and business psychologist Nelisha Wickremasinghe explores how it is impossible to build healthy relationships when our brains and bodies are in threat. Following on from her acclaimed book Beyond Threat, she unravels why so many of us are often in threat, and how we can overcome these feelings to find freedom, authenticity, and forgiveness in our relationships. In Being with Others we learn how to recognise our curses, cast off the spells, and wake up to the scintillations of insight that can deepen our relationships.