Many families leave their children for years to be looked after by young
people about whom they know next to nothing, from places they have
barely heard of. Who are these au pairs, why do they come and what is
their experience of this arrangement? Do they, for their part, find that
they are treated as one of the family, and would they even want to be?
After a year of careful research, this book shows how most of our
assumptions and expectations about au pairs are wrong.
This is the first book devoted to the lives of au pairs, their leisure
as well as their work time. We see this world from the eyes of the
visitors, and their unique perspective on what lies at the heart of our
family life. The book does not flinch from documenting the realities of
the situation Ð the racism and the problematic behaviour of the au pairs
themselves, as much as the ignorance and exploitation they can be
subject to. The book is a case study in how to come to feel modern life
empathetically from the viewpoint of one of those many migrant groups we
take for granted and rely on but rarely try to understand.